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No really after the first periode of being inlove the blindfold is slowly coming off and you start to see the person for who he or she really is, - with all the bad and good side. If you still like what you see, - then its love.
I could name 20 things atleast regarding my husband that gets on my nerves or i find strange in his behaviour, but i love him anyway, any day and always. Im SURE he would say the same about me.
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Wouldn't we find too many faults and never marry then? Yes I think we would be all single actually but would we be happier being single?
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I think we would be happier single, would not know of the pain and hurt but also no knowledge of the happiness and love, a life without feelings?? Anthropos how are you doing? Is it going better overe there and how is the bayby doing ,groving fast I suppous
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There will always be faults, in all of us..nobody is perfect. You accept them sometimes with their faults because you know it only makes them human and you know that you have at least a chance with a human! I would hate to marry someone 'perfect' - always be careful what you wish for.
My mother has remined single for years since divorcing my father, he on the other hand remarried. But my mother has always said (like DawnBev) that she is much happier single. She doesn't have to share the remote, consider what someone else wants to eat, share and consider finances with the other, etc. I said once, 'but the companionship, don't you miss that?'. She explained, 'no, I have my family and my friends, and they don't ask me for money, sex or to clean up after them'.
quote:Originally posted by Anthropos: Wouldn't we find too many faults and never marry then? Yes I think we would be all single actually but would we be happier being single?
We meet someone, we fall in love. We 'lose' our head, see things through rose tinted glasses. And then the reality sets in... There are no people on this planet who don't have any faults. The only thing is if the partner can accept the other person as he/she is. And sometimes this part is really tough ... But you know what? If nature didn't provide us with this 'blinding' period, we wouldn't marry anyone, but also wouldn't engage in any steady relationship. We could only, well, reproduce, without any further commitment. Not entertaining, I think...
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But if we didn't form strong feelings during the blinding period and basically because of it also isn't likely that the relationship will fall apart when we see the annoying and faulty side of the partner? Isn't this period really neccessary or is it better to have it feeling-free in the beginning as it is perhaps in pre-arranged marriages?
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quote:Originally posted by Anthropos: But if we didn't form strong feelings during the blinding period and basically because of it also isn't likely that the relationship will fall apart when we see the annoying and faulty side of the partner? Isn't this period really neccessary or is it better to have it feeling-free in the beginning as it is perhaps in pre-arranged marriages?
It's up to a person. And pre-arranged marriages are not necessarily feeling-free.
Normally we meet someone, feel attracted to them, want to spend our lives together. It's how things are. But there's a difference between infatuation and true love, the latter evolving over a period of time. And yes, there are always annoying things about a partner. It's only when something becomes unbearable (and I mean it) when we should think about ceasing the union.
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Love isn't blinding. It only has that effect on people who want to be in relationships at all costs. They are more likely to live in lala land coz it is better than reality. Some people are afraid of being single..those are the ones who are most affected by loves blinding effect.
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I'm reading your question and answers Anthropos, and I have the feeling you're so tired. Are you ok? It seems you're writing like an exhausted robot.
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